Life goes on….around me…

Seems like forever since I’ve even visited this site…but this time there is a reason.

Nearly one month ago, my husband of 32 years announced that he was filing for a divorce. He is claiming ‘irreconcilable differences’. I, obviously, was blindsided, shocked, devastated, whatever you want to call it….and still am living in a shattered world.

I don’t know if, or when, I will be back to blog again…but I know there are several friends who read here that haven’t heard my news. Sorry to tell you this way, but didn’t know how else to reach everyone.

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9 Responses to Life goes on….around me…

  1. vickie says:

    OMG!!! I am so sorry to hear this – please let me know if there is anything I can do to help.

    • maxinequilts says:

      Thanks Vickie. There really isn’t much that anyone can do. I just need to somehow learn to deal with this. I need to find a job, a new home…a new life… It is going to be a long, hard haul.

      But helps to know there are those who care. Thanks for being my friend!

      Dara Carlock River Bluff Quilting

      • vickie says:

        Hi Dara

        Well another month has almost gone by and I was wondering how you are doing? I don’t know if you are doing the counselor thing or not but do go, even if he won’t. It will help you sort through all of the stuff in your head :-)

        hugs
        vickie

      • maxinequilts says:

        Hi Vickie….thanks so much for thinking about me. I think I am doing pretty good. He has refused counseling, and I can’t afford it…I have joined a divorce care group through my church and am finding it helpful. The facilitator has a Master’s degree in counseling, so he is very helpful.

        At this point, I am trying to find a good job. Mark has found a position in Michigan and will be moving by the beginning of November. I will remain in our home until it sells (or hell freezes over whichever comes first!). Obviously not a good time to be trying to sell a $300,000 house….

        Overall, I am doing pretty good. Doing some quilting, picked up a new customer who seems to be rather prolific. Joined a women’s Bible study group, first meeting was tonight. Am spending more time with my kids and parents, and that is always a good thing.

        Dara Carlock River Bluff Quilting

  2. Kelly S says:

    Holy crap! I’m so sorry Dara! Like Vickie said, if there is anything I can do to help or if you need someone to listen, please let me know or call. I’ll be certain to pray for you.

    • maxinequilts says:

      Thanks Kelly. I am totally devastated….I am seeing a therapist, and she has suggested that I ask one last time if Mark will see a counselor with me. Our issues are all ‘relationship’ issues, and she feels strongly that we can work this out. A couple of weeks ago, he was totally against seeing anyone. He is in Michigan and has been for over a week. That is where he plans to move after the divorce. He texted a friend that he has had three job offers…. Anyway, when he comes home tomorrow, I will make one last effort at saving this marriage. I can’t make him see a counselor, I can’t make him stay with me. But I have to try one last time….

      I appreciate your prayers…right now, my prayer is for a miracle, because that is what I think is needed….

      Dara Carlock River Bluff Quilting

  3. Kelly S says:

    Just checking in. I see Vickie did the same. I’m glad to hear that you are finding support. I’m amazed he found a job in Michigan. Do stay in touch and let us know if there’s anything we can do to help. (By we, I mean me and probably my DH and probably Vickie too.) Saying a prayer for comfort and peace and a job.

  4. Kelly S says:

    So, have you found a job? I pray nightly that you do (along with 2 others who also need jobs.)

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